This post lists many of the “hurdles” I’ve jumped in the 8 years since I learned my son (and then my husband and I) had ADHD. Read on for some of the “oh shit moments” in my battle to gain some sense of control over our ADHD household.
Maybe these will resonate with you. . .
-I no longer freak out if neighbors pop in bc of the mess.
-People don’t talk over one another in our house (that much).
-People eat dinner together without a screen in their face.
-I want to spend time w my kids and I no longer put them in front of a movie bc I can’t handle their behavior.
-I’m not walking on egg shells around my partner bc I know what sets him off and when to leave him alone.
-I know hanger is a real thing and I am ready and equipped w cliff bars to handle it.
-I won’t assume my child isn’t interested in something like chess bc he’s hyperactive.
-We will go out to a restaurant together and not have everyone staring, like “I didn’t know the circus was in town.”
-In our house, people say what they mean, they aren’t just MEAN.
-I know the difference between my child talking and his emotions/condition/meds talking.
-My child has accommodations at school and he knows when he does and doesn’t need them.
-My child understands his own symptoms and apologizes or says “I don’t know why I got so mad, threw that toy, slammed the door.”
-I am able to remember things like my child ‘s field trip form so he’s not THE ADHD KID without the necessary tools/supplies/etc.
-I know what a fidget spinner, knitting needles and yarn, or other refocus tool is and I know how to use it.
-I’m learning how to homeschool and I will make an informed decision about which education style works best for my son. #knowingishalfthebattle #yesimadeaGIJoereference
-I know how to create a calm space in each room of the house and it’s cheap (new meaning to the word escape room).
-I know that getting my mind right gets my life right and I’m willing to make diet and exercise a priority for me and my family bc it helps quell ADHD symptoms.
-I will not feel embarrassed when a neighbor sees me walking down the street w my 2 year-old who is completely out of control bc I’m secretly afraid she knows I have ADHD and thinks that’s why I’m not a good mom/can’t control my kid.
-I will put any doctor to shame who says ADHD women may not want to have kids, and DEF NOT 3. YES, a doctor actually said that!!!!!!
-I will not cry when the pharmacy has run out of the medication I am taking and they tell me “there is a limited amount of this medication available bc it’s a controlled substance so try next week.” Listen, my fucking brain is a controlled substance and I’m losing the control right now, asshole.
-I will not feel shame when I leave the doctors office in tears bc she tells me “you’re just busy, try meditation, I don’t think you have ADHD.”
-I won’t have another morning where all the laundry is dirty and my son can’t find a clean pair of shorts so he wears ones he’s already worn to school that week w a stain on the back.
-I’ll wake up before my kids to get some quiet focus for my day before “who let the dogs out” becomes my theme song.
-I will not feel badly about choosing not to spank my children. I don’t care how many family members tell me to get my kids and their screaming under control.
-I will not spit on the woman who screamed at my son when he was playing in the revolving door. She told me to stop letting my son run wild when I opened the “regular” door for her bc it was easier than dealing w a meltdown from him.
-I will not give up on a medication trial until I’m sure I’ve tried enough dosages and different medicines.
-I’m strong and educated enough about ADHD to have my reservations about meds, but still try them.
-I’m strong enough in my ADHD medication convictions to say, that’s not for me or my child right now.
-I will never judge a parent bc I have a kid who is different and I know that we all have our own stories-conditions-reasons for doing what we do.
-I will never shame my son or let a family member shame him by calling him lazy, or making fun of his flapping arms or other spectrum-y behaviors.
-I will never give up on myself or my child. I know that ADHD makes us special, different and connected in a way most don’t understand. It’s a super power, esp once you’ve mastered your shortcomings.
Have a great week!!!!!
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