What I Needed–ADHD reflections during the Covid-19 Quarantine


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When I was first coming to grips with my ADHD I wanted meds to fix me but I needed strategies to make me more productive.


I wanted a partner to love me for all my faults but I needed one who would help me improve upon them instead.


I wanted a son who would listen but I needed a son who would show me the parenting work I still had to do.

I wanted a blog to show me all the answers.  I needed those narratives to keep me from the loneliness of our diagnosis.


I wanted an extended family who would support me in my decisions to parent differently, I needed an extended family that believed in me.  Thankfully, that’s what I got.

I wanted a structured family life with organized rooms, chore charts and dinner at 6 sharp.  I needed a flexible household that could bend with our sheer number of needs and not buckle under pressure.

I wanted to birth non-adhd children to show myself  thatI was a good parent when a child was “easy.”  I needed more adhd children to test my skills and ensure I understood my first born’s lessons.


I wanted an easy, breezy family life.  I needed the reassurance that I was one bada$$ MF mom so my family life is complete chaos some days, especially these days.

I hope this quarantine is giving you everything you needed even if it’s nothing you wanted.  See you on the other side.

Published by Family ADDventures

Nicole Santiago is a learning specialist, student advocate, and founder of Family ADDventures. As a specialist, she assesses and teaches clients (adults and adolescents) to manage and grow their executive functioning skills which include emotional regulation, task initiation, and time management. As an advocate (IEP coach), she is a member of COPAA and ensures inclusive (special) education students receive the most appropriate educational services possible. She often collaborates with OT's, SLP's and neuropsychologists all in the name of student improvement and success. Her practice is located in San Antonio, TX, and everywhere (virtually). The author grew up an army brat and spends time with her three ND children and husband in Puerto Rico whenever possible. She writes about mental health, parenting, education, and entrepreneurship on her blog: FamilyADDventures.com

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